Friday, November 22, 2013

Prostitutes and gold diggers, and why I prefer to befriend the first one (Last Part)

Some of you may think that this writer is being unfair on people who demonstrated gold digging attitudes.  You don’t need to be smart to figure it out.  Maybe you’ll lay down stories upon stories why gold diggers become gold diggers to understand where they are coming and why they are doing it.  However, let us not forget that most of us ignore or don’t know the fine line between prostitution and gold digging.  For some, this can be considered as an alternate perspective that most of us may have ignored.  In addition, the views that were written in this multiple-part article are not an official viewpoint of the church that the writer is affiliated.  Most probably, the views that were just written may not be a common view or opinion of the members of the church that this writer is affiliated.  This can be disagreed, ridiculed, rebutted, or worst among all, ignored entirely.  If this happens, it is their right and must be respected, just like the way the views that were written here must also be respected.


Despite the beating that gold diggers received, there is a reality that both prostitution and being a gold digger is a sin.  The root gold digging is covetousness.  Prostitution, in my opinion, stems from fornication and adultery.  However, what makes a prostitute better than gold diggers is something that is mentioned during the first part of this article: that they know that they are doing the wrong thing.  Just like the publican in the parable of the Pharisee and the Publican, Jesus Christ didn’t praise the public for his actions and past deeds (NO WAY!); he was praised for his humble acknowledgment that he is a sinner.  The publican is so humble he can’t even look up at heaven.  Gold diggers are more like the Pharisees; they brag what they do right, like being generous but ignores what they do wrong – gold digging.


Both the prostitutes and gold diggers, at the end of the day, are totally depraved individuals who need God’s grace in order to be saved and for their lifestyles to end.  Meaning, they are just like the rest of us.  May God’s grace and our healthy acknowledgment of our own limitations and shortcomings surround us!

Prostitutes and gold diggers, and why I prefer to befriend the first one (Part 4)

5) Prostitutes don’t want to have kids, while gold diggers, on certain extent, really wanted to have kids. Okay, before you react, let me explain that first sentence.  Prostitutes, contrary to the popular belief, don’t want to have children.  Why?  For starters, it’s another mouth to feed.  It’s a headache because of their line of work.  After all, they go out at night and went home early the next morning.  Normally, they have no one to take care of their kids.  Even if she has a husband/live-in partner (who normally doesn’t know her activity), maternal instinct will kick in.  In addition to that, she is fully aware of what will happen if other people in her community found out about her job.  Chances are, their kids will be scolded, bullied, harassed by some people, calling them names, even if the parent’s sin will not automatically be their children’s.  I do believe that this one plays in their mind.  Being maternal themselves, most hookers don’t want kids to drag in their own trouble, unless she loses her morality drastically.  On the practical side, getting pregnant will leave them jobless for at least 6 months.  This is bad for her job.  Plus, having kids will have problems with their figure.  Bad body figure? Expect her price to be cheaper than before.


Gold diggers, on the other hand, really want to have kids, or at least one, to their partner, be it her husband, boyfriend, or benefactor.  THE CHILD SERVES AS HER LEVERAGE TO HER PARTNER WHEN THE GOING GETS TOUGH AND HER TICKET FOR A BETTER LIFE IF EVER HER PARTNER STARTED TO DESPISE HER WHEN SHE GETS OLD OR ANY OTHER REASON.   A BABY IN HER TUMMY IS ANOTHER GOLD DIGGING OPPORTUNITY.  Never wonder if ever baby comes first before marriage, or maybe, no marriage will ever take place.  For diggers, she hits the jackpot if the baby turns out to be a girl, because the “gold digging legacy” continues.  After all, some have a mindset that if she grows up and find a man that is well-off, well, you know, I don’t need to mention the details.

6) Prostitutes leave prostitution in a faster rate than gold diggers leave their gold digging attitude.  Prostitutes, because of their fast shelf life in the “industry”, retire early.  Because of their continuous hazards and risks, most, if not all, quit in their late 30s or at most, late 40s (there is a documentary that this writer watched about 2 years ago or more that deals with prostitutes who are certified grandmothers, but that was a different story and a rarity).  If they are not sick or dead, they either become pimps (or the handler) or they work and start a family.  Some even go back to school to finish their formal education.


If unrepentant of her ways, the gold digger’s mentality doesn’t really die down with age.  After all, especially if a gold digger got married to a “jackpot”, all they’ll do is just give what her clueless male partner wants (that will not jeopardize her cover) until she can finally get her fortune.  If left unchecked, sometimes, it makes them better gold diggers.   Gold diggers, if ever they stop doing so, focus on their kids if ever they have one.  Some even had created a more subtle approach.  Sad as it seems, in some cases, the true color only shows upon the death of her rich, clueless husband/partner. 

Friday, November 8, 2013

Prostitutes and gold diggers, and why I prefer to befriend the first one (Part 3)

3)      Prostitutes ask directly for money with your consent, while gold diggers swipe you under your noses.  You don’t have to go to meet a prostitute to know this one.  Prostitutes will give you her price IF you ask her.  If you don’t like the price or if you don’t want the service or that act to begin with, she’ll just turn her back on you and go to her next potential salivating costumer.  Thanks to the internet, other costumers will just ask for her.  Simple as that.  Well, you may get mad because your carnal urge was not satisfied, but at least you’re out of trouble and out of further stress in the quickest time possible. 


Gold diggers, on the other hand, are getting money from you right under your noses.  It doesn’t have to be only for her consumption.  After all, one of the motivations of gold diggers is to help their own family.  Gold diggers say they’re helping their family, but in reality, it is mostly her husband/boyfriend/sugar daddy/benefactor who help her family WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE.  Some men are quick enough to see this, others, unfortunately, are not.






4)      Prostitutes are not self-righteous, but gold diggers look down on prostitutes, even if they are similar.  Prostitutes know that what they are doing is wrong.  Period.  Yes, they talk loud, they make fun of their activity, but it is all for a show.  Let us remember they have to be strong or sometimes show a tough exterior because they know they are looked down.   Yes, they lie to hide their profession at times, but most probably, because they don’t want their personal marred up.  Usually, the lying happens when the prostitute decided to retire and want to have a decent family or a decent job.  For some reasons, it is not even lying if you’ll look at it closely.  In my opinion, in this situation, it only becomes a lie when somebody asks her, but if no one’s asking, it is not lying.  A prostitute doesn’t want to go to church, but some does and makes a confession.  They know that despite of the flaws of religions, its leaders, and followers, they still acknowledge the church or the temple as a place of worship and holiness. If a prostitute, or even a pimp, came across a Christian or a “good boy” persona, they’ll show you a big amount of respect by going away from Mr. Christian guy.  In fact, the pimps and hookers feel who the good guys are by just looking.      



Gold diggers tend to be self-righteous.  They have an “at least I’m not a Nazi” attitude.  Because of self-righteousness, they resort by lying their way out whenever they are confronted.  Sometimes, they are fault finders, basically because they themselves are very flawed and are hiding it.  They look down at prostitutes and say that at least they’re not like them.  Bluntly?  In my opinion, they are worse than them because of self-righteousness and deceit.  Gold diggers can come in to churches unaware.  Because they are not prostitutes, and some more clever diggers shut their mouth inside the church, they even pass as good church attenders.  With no record of prostitution and especially married gold diggers doing it legally via marriage, their secret is oh-so-safe.  After all, we must mind our own business and not meddle with married couple problems, right? 

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Prostitutes and gold diggers, and why I prefer to befriend the first one (Part 2)

2) Prostitutes are capable of keeping secrets, even if you’re rich and famous, while gold diggers will most probably brag and drop the names of the rich and famous that she knows.   We are somehow familiar with this.  Especially high end prostitutes, they have high end clients.  Name it. Politicians. Movie stars. Businessmen.  However, more often than not, you’ll be surprised that they’ll not disclose the names of their clients.  If you paid them for their service, you’ll see them gone.  If you paid them cheap, you’ll hear foul words or even bash your head, but definitely, you’ll not hear a word from them.  Rahab is one of the best examples of a prostitute capable of keeping secrets (although Josephus said that she is an inn keeper and Rashi said that she is a food seller.  However, I do believe that food selling was her day job and possibly a slang or front for her night job as a prostitute.  The epistles James and Hebrews also mentioned that she is a harlot).  Yes, she requested that she and her loved ones be spared if Joshua and his army attack Jericho, which is a normal thing to do if you give out information to spies.  However, you’ll see that, when the two spies went into hiding because men are searching for them, Rahab never squealed (Read Joshua 2), and these two spies are not even rich and famous.


Gold diggers, on the other hand, love to be identified with the rich and the famous.  Some gold diggers may sound humble, but are more of humble-brags than humble ones.  They’ll mention the places that they went.  When they are at malls, they are usually the hot tempered, irritable ones to a saleslady or a cashier, and Mr. Rich-and/or-Famous is the nice, quiet one.  However, on a negative note, gold diggers tend to go nasty when they don’t get what they have: they drop names of their benefactor in broad daylight, especially if the benefactor is a married one.  They’ll drag down their names.  If the gold digger is smart, she will use the occasion to damage the rich and famous guy’s reputation.  Some gold diggers will even try to get themselves pregnant when they are in the good situation and use their kid as leverage when the going gets tough.  Sad as it seems, they come to a point that they use their baby as tool for them to go one step further, I mean financially speaking.  I think I’ll not mention further.  But one thing is sure, when the damage was done by gold diggers, not only is the man’s public life scandalized, but his private life is also shattered.  More often than not, their wife will leave them.  If the man is not married, his job and career will be affected if he’ll not pull himself together.  True, no matter how terrible a man’s mistakes and blunders, he can move on, but I tell you, it’s such a headache and heartache before he eventually moves on.  Maybe you’re getting the picture.

(To be Continued...)

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Prostitutes and gold diggers, and why I prefer to befriend the first one (Part 1)

We all know what prostitutes do.  Sex for a price.  Gimmick. Walking. Candy. Name it.  Ask for it, but with a price.  What price?  Well, aside from money, the tendency that you’ll get STD. Worse than that, is the mental or literal tag of the squeaky clean ones in the church as if sex outside marriage is the only sin  in the world, and not lying, dividing the brethren, etc.


Some are familiar with gold diggers beyond the word itself.  Actually, gold diggers are social climbers to the next level.  However, they go to the extent of having a relationship or even marrying someone just because he or she is rich and famous. 


However, why shall I rather make friends with prostitutes rather than social climbers and gold diggers?  Am I out of my mind?  Well, about my insanity, if you define insanity as weird, eccentric, and out of this world, well, I am insane.  However, if you define insanity in its clinical, psychiatric sense, then I am of sound mind, maybe sounder than some of you (as a sound mind doesn’t live their life on the error throwbacks of other people). Here is the list:
1)  For starters, prostitutes know that their job is wrongful in the first place, while gold diggers rationalize or justify their act in a surprising manner.  Because of this, they know and are ready for guys who will treat them wrongfully, plainly because they are whores.  Hence, they tend to speak tough or talk trash, sometimes not because they meant it, but because they have to do it.  It’s their defense or coping mechanism.  After all, we all know how most guys behave when they hire them.  Plus, their job is dangerous on their part also. We’ll not dig into that.  However, since they know that their job is wrong in the first place, they know their place in the society.  In fact, some even go to church for weekly confessions. 


Gold diggers, on the other hand, justify in a surprising way why they have to do it.  In fact, their rationalization is so outstanding you might be convinced that their act is not wrong to begin with.  Gold diggers will even resort to manipulation and deception to make it appear that she’s just there because she loves Mr. Rich-and-famous Guy.  Gold diggers will rationalize their act by saying, “at least I don’t sell my body like a whore”.  However, these gold diggers may not have realized (or are aware of it) that they’re making a fool out a man.  Because she compared herself better than prostitutes, chances are, she is also self-righteous.  Because of the self-righteous tendency, they don’t confess their gold digging sins to God, unlike some prostitutes do.   Nowadays, when even churches banner the “love is good, but we need cash” mantra, some girls took this to wrong context (or maybe found a notable ally in this excuse), so they had a relationship and get married to a guy for security, not for love.  Now, what about places with dowry in their culture?  Well, that is another story.   
(to be continued)