Thursday, February 23, 2012

Fairness, Silver Spoon, and Working Hands

More often than not, we encounter people that are blessed financially. Sometimes, they’re not limited to places like Forbes Park, Corinthian Garden, and the likes. We call them names or terms like born with a silver spoon, señorito/señorita/doña/don, and anak mayaman. In fact, maybe one of them is your colleague, friend, or classmate. That person’s a bit out of place mainly because he is, well, blessed. We don’t refer to the people with famous surnames. We refer to people who parents worked hard to the point that they finished their college education (even graduate/law/medical/business school) because their parents worked hard and as a result, were financially blessed. They’re seemingly blessed even on workplace. Their good work ethic is accompanied with being a person with likeable factor (not necessarily popular). Their names may not ring a bell on high society circle, but their needs are met just fine. They earn their respect like a breeze, although it’s not merely because of nepotism or other negative reasons. They just seemed…lucky.

On the other side, we know a handful of “wounded warriors”. They have a colorful life that they can utilize if they wanted to run for public office. Their childhood can be seen as tragic. Their student years are, well, tough, because they need to work in order to pay for their tuition, not to mention their other expenses. In the workplace, they work their way to the top. With these experiences, he earned the respect. Indeed, a champion despite adversities of this life.

Now, amidst the audience (or the people who don’t want to belong in these two categories for whatever reason) these two types of people meet in a workplace or some place. More often than not, we sided with “Mr. Working Hands” in a soap opera fashion. Whether we admit it or not, if “Mr. Silver Spoon” accomplishes something, we just dismissed it. I like to put it in Tagalog: hindi natin na-aapreciate gaano dahil kasi diumano ay mayaman siya. We often say similar terms, not the exact words, like, “He submitted the papers early because he has maids at home” or “He is the son of this and that. He has connections.” After all, a typical Filipino loves “underdogs”.

This is somewhat tragic on the part of Mr. Silverspoon. Is it his fault if ever God blessed his family? Is it his fault if ever his education and further education were financed by his parents? Is it his fault if he has “soft hands” – an epitome of so-called laziness? Admit it or not, instead of acknowledging God’s grace on Mr. Working Hands, we give credit solely on that person, like it’s Mr. Silver Spoon’s fault. We’re not including all Mr. Working Hands, but when they see Mr. Silverspoon accomplishing something, we can’t comprehend why, even to the point of asking God if He’s fair or not. Worse than that, we may even question God’s existence because of that!

Allow yours truly to give some things to ponder, if you like to ponder. Let us remember that not all people that are blessed financially accomplish something good. It’s all about good stewardship. He was blessed with finances and other gifts, he just knows how to use it properly. Because of our negative attitude towards “These Lucky Individuals”, we eventually become what we despised the most – boastful, arrogant individuals. Arrogant of our own suffering, like a soldier proud of his battle wounds, rather than acknowledging God or Life’s fairness for giving you the wisdom to work it out at the end of the day.

Amidst all this, God is still fair. There is a purpose why a person is born with a silver spoon, and why another person is born to work hard. Let us give one, somewhat close-to-the-writer’s-heart-reason: there are Mr. Underappreciated Ones and Unappreciated Ones who are also Mr. Silverspoons. Just because we think they’re blessed, they don’t need the comfort. As an effect, that person never receives a simple “hi”. In my opinion, what we see as silver spoon is just life’s way of saying, “you didn’t appreciate the person for who he is, here’s for an equalizer”. Life has an equation indeed. Even if it’s hard to comprehend, God or life (if you loathed God) has been fair to Mr. Working Hands. Because of his hard work, chances are, he gained the respect of the people around him. He may not be that materially blessed, but he commands hard earned respect. God has been fair also to Mr. Working Hands. Because of his adversities, God has given him the wisdom, intelligence, even physical will and strength to accomplish things.

Again, there is a purpose why a person is born with a silver spoon, and why another person is born to work hard. The bottom line is for God to be glorified at the end of the day. The bottom line is for us to see how God’s grace abounds, especially to His people.

Thank you very much.

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