Thursday, November 24, 2011

Forms of speech and listening

Preparing the Speech


Factors to Consider in Choosing a subject:

Their chronological age
Their intellectual level
Their cultural development
Their vocations and avocations
Their political and religious beliefs
Their attitudes towards particular groups
Their economic status and special interests

Listening

When we are talking to someone, we are expecting that someone to listen to us. This is also applicable when having a public speech. The problem? Listening is a tough thing to learn, because this means turning yourself OFF.

How do you create an animated, enthusiastic, interested group of listeners?

Consider the physical aspects of listening.
Look at them so as to establish mental contact with them.
Think of your audience as a mirror image of yourself.
Put yourself in the role of a listener.
Interview someone.

Five types of speech

Impromptu talk
Extemporaneous talk
Memorized speech
Speaking from a manuscript
Speaking with notes

Speeches for Special Occasions

The Interview
The Introduction
The Announcement
The Welcome Talk
Nomination and Acceptance of Nomination Speech
Presenting and Receiving of Awards Speech
The Radio or Television Talk

Speaking with a Definite Purpose
Informative Speech
Inspirational Speech
Entertaining or Graceful Speech
Persuasive Speech
Argumentative Speech

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

No, I'll not talk about a brand of mayonnaise, which is my favorite by the way.   In the single's world, basically, especially here in the Philippines, it is the guys who make the move, and it's the girls who choose.  Be it old fashioned courtship or the modern approach, it is the girls who choose the guys.  In the animal kingdom, the male peacock have better colors than the female ones, still, it is the female peacock who decides which male peacock she will have for mate.

Normally, guys are raised with certain opinions on what guy will be chosen by a girl.  Some of those things are not even opinions; some of those are even Biblical truths.  Typical Christian bachelors, especially who is really serving God, adhere to this very much.  For example, a Christian girl must choose a Christian guy, therefore, Mr. Christian Bachelor, assumed that his competition will be narrowed down to only Believers.  Mr. Christian Bachelor will do his best to be the best gentlemen not only in the church, but also outside the church.  He'll be the poster boy of being the nice boy.   He'll groom his way.  Pinched himself with masculine perfume.  If he's a college graduate, he'll work and earn.  This will attract women, Christian women to be in particular, right?  Not all the time.

Chances are, when Mr. Christian Bachelor was rejected by a woman he is interested, it comes to a point he'll not attend the church.  Poor thing.  Reality bites.  Christian women will choose what they still want, even to the point of disregarding Biblical standard.  It's unfair, isn't it?  Quite a bit, but not much.  Christian women are still women.  They choose the guys, even if their local Pastor will not like their choice.  Guys, I understand what you feel when you're rejected, despite doing your best, even to the point of being Mr. Poster boy.  I understand some bitterness when we're busted.  Still, it is the woman who makes their choice on this, no matter how ugly or low standard (so to speak) their  choices might be.

A guy is not chosen by particular groups of women plainly because he's not their choice.    Let's not pity ourselves so much like we're a bunch of losers.  No you're not.  There are girls who are into geeky guys, there are girls who are into goody boy, elite school look.  It's shallow, you might say.  Wait, there are girls who are into the "deep, thinking, poetic" type.  I still believe that each guy will find the girls who will choose them.  This also applies to Christians.  Your job, guys, is to find the Christian girls who will choose you.  Effort on that, guys, effort.

Don't worry guys.  If these ladies didn't choose you and they end up miserable, it's not your fault.   After all, they made the choice, not you.

We may shake our heads as Christian ladies choose unbelieving men over Christian guys, regardless of the obvious verse in the Bible.  Still, it's not in us to choose.  It's theirs.  Don't be sad if you're busted, though that feeling is understandable.  You're not their choice.  Period.  No more. No less.  For the mean time, just do your best to make yourself better by God's grace.  Focus. Serve  God.  Love your family.

It's Ladies' choice...just get over it...smoothly.

Friday, November 11, 2011

The Lady's Choice

The Lady's Choice

No, I'll not talk about a brand of mayonnaise, which is my favorite by the way. In the single's world, basically, especially here in the Philippines, it is the guys who make the move, and it's the girls who choose. Be it old fashioned courtship or the modern approach, it is the girls who choose the guys. In the animal kingdom, the male peacock have better colors than the female ones, still, it is the female peacock who decides which male peacock she will have for mate.



Normally, guys are raised with certain opinions on what guy will be chosen by a girl. Some of those things are not even opinions; some of those are even Biblical truths. Typical Christian bachelors, especially who is really serving God, adhere to this very much. For example, a Christian girl must choose a Christian guy, therefore, Mr. Christian Bachelor, assumed that his competition will be narrowed down to only Believers. Mr. Christian Bachelor will do his best to be the best gentlemen not only in the church, but also outside the church. He'll be the poster boy of being the nice boy. He'll groom his way. Pinched himself with masculine perfume. If he's a college graduate, he'll work and earn. This will attract women, Christian women to be in particular, right? Not all the time.



Chances are, when Mr. Christian Bachelor was rejected by a woman he is interested, it comes to a point he'll not attend the church. Poor thing. Reality bites. Christian women will choose what they still want, even to the point of disregarding Biblical standard. It's unfair, isn't it? Quite a bit, but not much. Christian women are still women. They choose the guys, even if their local Pastor will not like their choice. Guys, I understand what you feel when you're rejected, despite doing your best, even to the point of being Mr. Poster boy. I understand some bitterness when we're busted. Still, it is the woman who makes their choice on this, no matter how ugly or low standard (so to speak) their choices might be.



A guy is not chosen by particular groups of women plainly because he's not their choice. Let's not pity ourselves so much like we're a bunch of losers. No you're not. There are girls who are into geeky guys, there are girls who are into goody boy, elite school look. It's shallow, you might say. Wait, there are girls who are into the "deep, thinking, poetic" type. I still believe that each guy will find the girls who will choose them. This also applies to Christians. Your job, guys, is to find the Christian girls who will choose you. Effort on that, guys, effort.


Don't worry guys. If these ladies didn't choose you and they end up miserable, it's not your fault. After all, they made the choice, not you.



We may shake our heads as Christian ladies choose unbelieving men over Christian guys, regardless of the obvious verse in the Bible. Still, it's not in us to choose. It's theirs. Don't be sad if you're busted, though that feeling is understandable. You're not their choice. Period. No more. No less. For the mean time, just do your best to make yourself better by God's grace. Focus. Serve God. Love your family.



It's Ladies' choice...just get over it...smoothly.

Saturday, November 5, 2011

The (pseudo) Bro. Joshua Harris Syndrom

During my middle part of my youth days in the church, a book by Joshua Harris was published. The title of the book is "I Kissed Dating Goodbye". Yes, the title may sound eyebrow raising, but I bought the book and read it. As a summary, the book didn't discourage dating, but it illustrates the disadvantages of dating more than once (more than once meaning dating many times, not dating many person at once). I agree. Pastor Harris wrote the book when he was 21. It was written by a young man who is looking forward that he'll give up the dating game in order to focus on serving God (http://www.joshharris.com/i_kissed_dating_goodbye.php).



When this book came out in the Philippines during the late 90s and on to the 2000, a school of thought existed upon reading this book and I dubbed "Joshua Harris syndrome". (just for the idea to stick, I admire and respect Pastor Harris). It is the mindset that a person will only date someone that he or she is very sure that he or she is the will of God. That, my friends, is an ideal thing to do. Now a Senior Pastor, Pastor Harris wrote a "forward looking" book.



Let me set this straight: the book was not written to shoo away suitors and admirers. It is not also written to be scared of entering into dating, and eventually, a relationship. It is not also written to point fingers that a Christian guy you know is either a playboy (allegedly or proven) or a "smooth operator". It is not written to accuse some Christian ladies of being a flirt plainly because she dated many men before. It is written so that young people will serve God better than it used to be. In other words, it's written for young people God in a genuine, not self righteous, and better manner.



Since we talked about dating, a Christian bachelor should take the risk by asking a Christian lady on a date, BUT he should make his intention known. Guys, please don't play safe. If the lady asked you why, make your intentions known. If she accepts, don't take advantage by going over the board. Respect, brother. If she rejects, respect her decision. By the way, dating should not be treated as a "game". Treat dating as a decision, not a bandwagon. This is the reason dating is not for kids, because it's not a game.



Typical Christian single ladies, just like typical single ladies, have their own dream guy. The only difference is that the fairy tale was changed into a Christianized form of it. Prince Charming was now changed into Mr. Ideal Christian. That Mr. Christian should not be like this and that. That Mr. Christian is this and that. Ladies, THERE IS NO MR. IDEAL CHRISTIAN, but there are Christian guys who, despite their negative tendencies, try to bounce back and "workout their Christian life" day by day. In short, Christian guys who live by God's grace.



I do believe that Pastor Joshua Harris wrote the book in good faith. He wants that every Christian singles out there find the right woman or right man with less painful experience of undergoing number of dates or to certain extent, relationships. At the end of the day, a bachelor or a single lady should keep the Christian ideals and values intact in his or her head and heart, but at the same time, accept the situation IF the date...or the relationship did not go right.



Dating per se is neither wrong nor right. It only becomes wrong when another Biblical rules are broken. Is dating Biblical? The Bible didn't mention "dating" verbatim because arranged marriage, political marriage, and serving the woman's family for years are the trend back then. Personally, if I lived during the Biblical times, I will adhere to the aforementioned practices of obtaining a mate. However, today's not the case here in the Philippines. So, does that mean dating is wrong? Not necessarily. As long as you date, you don't treat it as a joke. As long as you're ethical and you avoid situations that will lead you to fornication (guys, don't be aggressive. Ladies, don't flirt or imply flirtation).



Have a good weekend, single people. Enjoy in a wholesome manner. Despite my statements, still, I thanked Pastor Harris for the book he wrote when he was 21. It's a looking forward book. Again, have a good weekend.